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6 expert-approved tips for amazing sex

Spice up your time together with these approaches.

Updated on May 26, 2023

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Not only does sex feel good, but regular time in the sack can have some major health benefits. To name a few, having sex regularly may lower your risk of heart disease, help minimize pain, decrease stress, and help you sleep better.

If you know about the benefits, but still feel like you and your partner need a sexual makeover, listen up. Whether you want toShow More

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Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay

When life is busy, foreplay is easy to skip during intimacy. That’s a shame, because many people benefit from—and enjoy—a precursor to the main event. What’s more, during foreplay, you and your partner can bond and explore one another, says Dr. Newell.

Touching, kissing, getting undressed, may beShow More

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Communicate on a regular basis

Talking about your sex habits with your partner can feel a bit awkward if you’re not used to it. But it’s completely normal to let them know what you like and what you don’t. “For men, it’s a lot easier to fulfill what they want out of sex,” says Newell. “But for women, there are a hundredShow More

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Remember that it’s not just about the bedroom

Keeping the fire alive goes beyond just sex. Showing affection and love throughout the day is important, too. “Some people get turned on by different things. For some, it’s physical affection and for others it’s seeing their spouse vacuuming because it’s your least favorite chore,” says Newell. “Show More

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Don’t be afraid to masturbate

How do you know what you like if you don’t experiment yourself? Even if you’re in a relationship, masturbation can help you get to know your body.

“Very few women have vaginal orgasms, so they are going to need some kind of direct stimulation of the clitoris to have an orgasm,” says Newell. And inShow More

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Schedule it on a calendar—seriously

This may seem silly, but carving out dedicated time for intimacy can help make it a top priority.

“If partners actually talk it out, they’ll probably realize they are really busy,” says Newell. “If both people are working two jobs—which a lot of families are—it’s almost impossible to get togetherShow More

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Make a sexual bucket list

You probably have a travel bucket list, so why not make a list of your sexual fantasies, too?

At the beginning of every month, you and your partner can create a list of things you’ve always wanted to try: a new location, a new lube, a different position, or a role-playing scenario. You’ll lookShow More

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American Academy of Family Physicians. Health Benefits of a Good Sex Life. Last Updated: May 8, 2020.
Oregon Health & Science University. Center for Women's Health. The Benefits of a Healthy Sex Life. Accessed January 24, 2022.
Muise A, Schimmack U, Impett EA. Sexual Frequency Predicts Greater Well-Being, But More is Not Always Better. Soc Psychol Personal Sci. 2016;7(4):295-302.

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