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4 signs you might have sexual dysfunction

These issues can impact your sex life—and may point to other health conditions. Here's what to do.

Updated on July 19, 2023

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The Cleveland Clinic estimates that 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men report having sexual difficulties—also known as sexual dysfunction—at some time or another.

In short, sexual dysfunction is a problem that causes you to avoid sex or to have unsatisfying sex. It’s influenced by biology and psychology, and can get worse with age, especially after 40. There areShow More

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You have a low sex drive, or none at all

Low libido, or sexual desire, is often the first clue a patient has sexual dysfunction, says Samantha Tojino, DNC, a doctorate nurse practitioner and sexual health specialist in Augusta, Georgia. “When a woman experiences a marked deficiency or absence of spontaneous or erotic thoughtsShow More

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You have pain during sex

If intercourse is causing you pain, the reason could be as simple as not using lubrication. A water-based lubricant can help, and ample stimulation through foreplay may also increase comfort. Hormonal changes related to menopause can cause the vagina to become dry or irritated as well. In this case,Show More

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You’re not getting what you need from your partner

Sexual complications can also be a result of what’s happening in the bedroom. “If your partner is finishing before you or is unable to achieve erection, this can leave you dissatisfied,” says Tojino. "This may also be an indicator of health issues with your partner."

Communication can help. Talk toShow More

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You’re irritable or stressed

Sex can boost your mood and reduce your stress levels. But if you're stressed about work, money, or your schedule, you might have a hard time focusing on being intimate in the moment. When anxiety or stress is affecting how often you want to have sex or your mindset when you do try to have sex,Show More

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How sexual dysfunction is diagnosed

“When a patient first comes to me with sexual dysfunction symptoms, we typically go through a series of tests, surveys, and screenings to diagnose what may be causing it,” says Tojino. These include a pelvic exam, a sexual dysfunction screener, and a menopausal questionnaire, which, when combined,Show More

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Expert sex tips to keep the fire alive

Once you’ve addressed any underlying health issues that may be interfering with sex, it’s time to make sex a priority (in whatever capacity you desire). Here are some ways to get started:

Set aside time for sex: In order to have sex, you have to make time for it. Try putting time on your calendarShow More

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Cleveland Clinic. 5 Benefits of a Healthy Sex Life. June 10, 2022.
Cleveland Clinic. Sexual Dysfunction. Last reviewed October 27, 2020.
Mayo Clinic. Female sexual dysfunction. December 17, 2020.
The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. Your Sexual Health. Last reviewed July 2022.
Mayo Clinic. Relaxation techniques: Try these steps to reduce stress. April 28, 2022.
Planned Parenthood. Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD). Accessed October 13, 2022.
Cleveland Clinic. Dyspareunia (Painful Intercourse). Last reviewed October 14, 2021.
Mayo Clinic. Painful intercourse (dyspareunia). September 17, 2022.

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